weThink, weShare: We are what we believe we are. -C. S. Lewis

so this is the Quote of the Day I got below.... and it got me to thinking.... all through breakfast, showering, and getting ready.... I suppose it is a GREAT thing, as it can PUSH us to our LIMITS... to reach for the stars.... to attain all that we wish for and reach all our goals.... but what of the other side of it - where some actually fool themselves into believing they are who they think they are - they tell themselves this and they actually end up TRULY BELIEVING... then wouldn't their lives be just BASED ON LIES?

I have seen this TRAIT on someone very close to me... at first I tried to understand, IGNORED it, DEALT with it.... and in the end - it caused such a biiiig rift between us - a rift that could never, ever be repaired... a rift that even caused a bit of unwanted/ and very unnecessary dramas over this year's XMAS celebration....

I mean, I believe in: "to each his own"... "whatever gets you through the day".... or just the plain fact that people do NEED TO BELIEVE IN CERTAIN THINGS to get them through their days... but if these will cause HARM to others, to friendships, to relationships... and eventually, their own selves... then why CONTINUE? why not just BE REAL? didn't someone say to "just tell the truth then you do not have too much details to have to remember"....

oh well, in lieu of the Holiday Season, I suppose I will just let it be.... and just hope 2010 will be a much simpler and most of all, REAL!

Make Your Own Kind of Music

Got to see this movie, BEAUTIFUL THING, once more -- and was reminded how beautiful and tender the movie was.... and how it is a perfect example of MUSIC and MOVIE fitting together perfectly! The movie came out in the mid 90's and it was a very URBAN and REALISTIC coming of age movie, at the same time, somewhat fairytale love story.. All the characters are flawed and SO REAL!

The scene below makes great use of The MAMAs & The PAPAs, Make Your Own Kind of Music -- the LYRICS makes one feel it was totally written for the movie... of course, most of us knows the music preceeds the movie many years ago....

The Pressure Principle

I read this in one of the things I was browsing through and it caught my attention - of course.... am not too sure now in what context it is in.... if am reading it correctly.... or is it one of those sentences that has a double meaning... for whatever reason the sentence was running through my head all day long...
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"90% of a person's happiness lies in the shoulders of his or her partner..."
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My initial take on it is that the blogger is saying that: "90% of their happiness depends on their partner... like their life and happiness revolves mainly around the partner can can go bad or good depending on how things are with their partner.... if am reading it correctly, then I totally disagree to this. -- it puts such pressure on the other person's part....

Or could it mean that: "one is 90% happy when their head is resting on their partner's shoulders.."

HAAYS, EITHER Way - the way I see it, it is so much PRESSURE on one's partner....